Mindless babble: Who are you anyway?
How often do you really sit down by yourself and ask
"who am i?" I was talking to a friend a while back. She
was telling me that in retrospect, some of the things she did in a brief period
of time didn’t make sense, was wrong and she wasn’t thinking clearly at
all. How often have you come across that situation?
Of course, I won’t go into the details of what happened, but you really have to
ask yourself, "why did I do that?" My response? "Who
are you?" No one really knows what’s going to happen in life, but if
you’re capable of setting goals for yourself, then that’s all you really
need. Now don’t go setting goals that you can achieve in a week or so …
I’m talking about long term goals. Goals that are just out of reach;
goals that are achievable and you’ll continue to strive for. The
benefit? Even if you don’t make it, you’ll be better off than if you had
set an easy one. Let your goals and aspirations lead you through life.
The most important thing in your life right now should be you and you’re own
happiness. Figure out what you enjoy doing, figure out what you hate,
figure out what you love, figure out what you want out of life. When
you’re fairly confident you’ve figured that out, then work someone else
in. In all honesty, how can you be completely happy with someone else,
when you’re not happy on your own? I guess that’s what people mean by "settling down" - they finally know who they are.
Finding that life partner isn’t just about the spark, it’s also about the
companionship. Beyond the spark, the friendship and the love comes from
knowing yourself and realizing that you can’t do it alone. Identify your strengths, your weaknesses, and the companion that you find should balance
you out so that when you become one, you’re both stronger people. The
eternal love that most are looking for is the appreciation of how well you work
together. Believe it or not, that’s what lasts an eternity. As
depressing as it might sound, nine times out of ten, it’s not the spark (on its own) that
lasts, it’s the deep bond that soulmates share … Sure, the spark gets you started, but after that, the spark is a
function of that bond, that friendship, and all things that go with it.
You really need to figure out who you are and it’ll lead to personal and mutual
happiness. Do whatever you need to get there - be with multiple people or go it alone. I’ll leave off with this. The real question is when do you really know who you are? Unfortunately, only you can answer that.
